Expressing your love for someone doesn’t have to include fancy chocolate, boutique flowers, and sparkly diamonds. In fact, it may not even be the best way to show your love if that person’s love language isn’t receiving gifts. Regardless of if you’ve just started seeing someone or if you’ve been together for over a decade, it’s important to take the time to show that you care in ways that your partner appreciates the most. The key is not having money but instead truly knowing what your partner values and ways to affirm that you care.
Words of Affirmation
This love language involves using words to build up the other person. Verbal compliments don’t have to be grandiose to be meaningful. Instead, short and thoughtful praises are more impactful. Compliments and “I love you” go a long way and even a “thank you” is more than appreciated. And, when it comes to your budget, words don’t cost a thing.
Some examples include:
- “I feel so lucky to be with you.”
- “I’m really proud of all the hard work you’ve been putting in this past week.”
- “That outfit looks incredible on you!”
Gifts
This love language is less about the materialism and more about finding a meaningful gift that makes your partner feel loved. It can be as simple as picking up your partner’s favorite candy bar after a difficult week. Items can hold a lot of sentimental value and show that you were thinking about the person.
Some examples include:
- Putting together a care package
- Making an album of some of your favorite memories and trips
- Finding another item to add to something they collect like mugs or turtles
Acts of Service
This love language encompasses “actions speak louder than words.” It involves doing something you know your partner would like and appreciate. While it may take some thought, time, and effort, it often doesn’t cost very much to express your love in this way.
Some examples include:
- Making a homecooked meal
- Cleaning your partner’s car before they head to work
- Fixing the leaky sink that’s been bothering them for the past month
Quality Time
This love language values undivided attention. It can be difficult to express this love language in a world filled with televisions and smartphones, but it is possible. You may even find that committing yourself to this love language saves you money by dedicating time together without all of the distractions. Quality attention is key and can make a big difference.
Some examples include:
- Completing a puzzle or playing a board game
- Cooking or baking a new recipe together
- Taking a walk together around the neighborhood
Physical Touch
This love language involves feeling physically and emotionally close to your partner. Physical contact and intimacy are central. By recognizing this as your partner’s love language, you’ll be able to recognize that a meaningful hug pays off more than a box of chocolate.
Some examples include:
- Cuddling on the couch after a long day
- Kissing and hugging your partner before heading to work
- Holding hands when you’re walking around the neighborhood